Being okay with making mistakes

Mistakes or something that everyone handles differently in their lives and I  know that when it comes to me I didn't always handle making mistakes in the best way and I wasn't always smart about it. 

I had a really bad habit of thinking that one simple mistake was detrimental and it would cost me everything  and that thinking put a fear in me that made me leave no room for mistakes in my life ever and that was really hard to do because as a human being you're going to make mistakes is part of being a person and if everything was meant to go perfectly all the time that's how it would be but it's not. 

I would do everything possible to make sure everything went perfectly when they didn't it was like everything fell apart but that was never the case even when I felt like things were going really badly there's never a time where I can say I don't appreciate that time in my life or the lesson that I learned because what am I main things I learned about mistakes is that a lot of the time what you need to do is take it as a learning lesson and move on and try better. 

There's really nothing you can do after the mistake happens besides do your due diligence, try again and learn from it because you can't go back in time and make things better or change how things happened. You can only fix it moving forward. 

I think it's important to understand though that you cannot fix everything and some things aren't meant to be fixed. There are learning lessons in the mistakes that you make in this life whether that is never doing that thing again or doing it a better way or changing you as a person either way there's something to learn from it. 

Obviously I still do not like making mistakes, especially big ones but I handled them a lot differently than I used to.  when I make a mistake yeah in the moment I'm very upset and I don't really want to do anything and I don't have positive feelings at all but once I take the time to fill my feelings I get up, do what I can and I move on from it and I take that Learning lesson to heart. 

I try again if I want to try again I change whatever I think I may need to change I do something before I allow it to make me feel as if I'm lesser than I'm not smart enough or anything negative because that's how you begin to be unkind to yourself for something that is literally in your nature. No matter how hard you try you cannot be perfect, not in the way you look, not in the way you feel, not in the way you do things, it's just not possible and until you understand that is going to be a very hard life.

 

I hope that some of you learn that life is supposed to be fun and exciting and you're supposed to do what you can to enjoy it while you're here and yes make sure you do what you have to do to live a comfortable life but do not forget to be kind to yourself and remember that you're human. There's a way to hold yourself accountable but still have respect for your feelings and your mindset and who you are as a person. Whether you're in school or you're working a job or you're struggling in any way just remember to take the time and breathe and get out of your head and then  do what works best for you so that you can figure yourself out. It's easier said than done but trying is better than doing nothing. 

Anyway I hope this helps someone in this gives anyone the motivation to be a little easier on themselves and remember to stay positive. 

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How to romanticize your life

Romanticizing life is something that you will eventually learn  is really important because it's a way of appreciating the little things in finding joy and stuff that you will usually take for granted.  so I wanted to share a couple of the ways that I romanticize the seasons and the school year and just life in general because I think it's important that we remember to add a little Whimsy to who to life. 

When you are in college it can be hard to focus on yourself because you're so busy doing other things and you can sometimes forget to enjoy what's around you and so it's important that you take the time and to do the things that you enjoy outside of schooling and Friends. 

1. Get dolled up and sometimes put on a cute outfit that makes you feel pretty and confident. For me I have early morning classes so I don't always like to put on an entire outfit, I just want to wear something comfortable and comfortable can still be cute. So I figured out how to feel pretty and feel confident while still dressing comfortably. I might wear something basic like a hoodie and jeans or leggings and some comfortable shoes but I will dress it up by over-accessorizing and I'll do my hair in a new style. I might do a little bit of makeup and this helps me feel as if I'm a little bit put together but I'm still comfortable enough to go sit in class and walk around campus. You can make jeans and skirts comfortable as well. I love wearing baggy jeans with some Uggs and hoodies or I might do a jean simple jacket with a tank top or a shirt. 

2. Another way I love to romanticize life is by enjoying small things like going to get a little coffee and sitting outside. I love the aesthetic of going to get you a fun drink then go sit outside and go do your homework. There are coffee shops you can find and you can go study in the library like in the movies. Go live in your worry Gilmore moment because it's moments like that, that makes your day a little better.

3. A playlist to walk around campus is always a good way to romanticize life because we all know that music can put you in certain moods so a playlist that makes you feel good is essential for romanticizing what you have going on around you I love listening to some of my favorite songs especially when they make me feel confident while going to class.

4. Be a little delusional and treat life like it's a movie in all seriousness go do the things you see be done in movies. Go get lunch with your friends, go on walks, study in a new place, go workout just for the cute set you get to put on. 

5. It's important to remind yourself to get out every once in a while. Not everyone enjoys partying or crowds but there are more ways to get out of the house.  make sure that you try your best to find other ways to socialize outside of the typical just do it in the way they make you the most comfortable. Find clubs, find organizations that you think you would enjoy like a book club. I go to a big school so there are all kinds of things available and even if there isn't, take advantage of what you do have. 

6. I personally like a plan, so one way I love to romanticize school is I like to decorate my MacBook. I like to decorate the websites I use. I get a cute planner for the school year and take time to do that every Sunday as a reset. 

7. Do a routine like you're an influencer it would make you feel put together even when you're not. Plus it's beneficial. Make yourself feel fresh and new. I like to clean up, spend the night doing all my girly things, and after I eat dinner I may have a sweet treat and a comfort movie.

8. Find little things to look forward to once the school day is over like that routine we just talked about, or a TV show you love, or a book. You can hang out with friends after classes, go hang around your college town, or go to a club meeting. and church group, who knows.  

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Twenty lessons from twenty years of life

 Advice from a 20 yr old...

1. It's just not humanly possible to have it ALL figured out.
2. You can plan but remember that you cannot predict the future.
3. Leave the first sign of disrespect, animosity, or odd character. 
4. Learn how to be content with the possibility of living life alone; if you can't be by yourself you can't really be with anyone.
   
5. Leave you hometown even if it's just an hour away, even if it's just for a year. No one says you have to stay gone. 
6. If you have the support system, use it, that is a privilege. 
7. You do not have to for relationships with people just because they are family. 
8. If you don't have a way, FIND A WAY. 
9. Do not idolize people. Especially celebrities guys c'mon. 
10. Dream big but dream realistically because chasing a fantasy it just as bad as chasing nothing. 
11. Please be yourself while your still young. Wear that outfit, do that makeup look, try that hobby, try that aesthetic. 
12. It pays nothing to be kind to people. Even when they are not kind in return that says more about their character, not yours. 
13. 
    People will label you however they want no matter what you say or do and that has nothing to do with you at the end of the day as long as you know you're not doing anything wrong. 
14. Forgive them even when you're still hurt, even when you know they're not sorry because, that un-forgiveness is only hurting you. 
15. Take your self respect seriously. Do not things you know you would look at someone else differently for doing. 
16. Learn to be okay with being misunderstood because there are people who are hellbent on doing so. 
17. Things like music taste, clothes, etc have absolutely nothing to do with who you truly are at the end of the day. 
18. Enjoy the material but remember they are just materials. 
19. Work hard for the life you want. otherwise don't complain if you're not where you want to be. 
20. At some point you cannot blame you life circumstances and problems on why your life is the way it is. Eventually because YOUR responsibility to pick yourself up and give yourself a good life. Easier said then done but not impossible. 
21. Bonus: A relationship should NOT be the main desire of your life and to depend on a partener to give you the life you want is foolish. 

I hope some of these helped you. If you have anything to add feel free to comment! 

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My Favorite Makeup Looks

These are some of my favorite makeup looks. I do the basic blush, lashes, lips, but I really want to try eyeshadow looks lately especially like in the pictures. They are so pretty and after experimenting I know what I look best in. 

Whats is your favorite style of makeup?

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I Wish Heels Were Casual Again 🎀

Oh how I Love A Cvnty Heel  

Ever since I was a little girl, I thought being an adult meant wearing heels whenever I wanted.

Movies made it seem so normal. Women walked through grocery stores in stilettos, clicked confidently down sidewalks, wore tall boots with dresses, and somehow looked effortlessly put together. I genuinely believed that once I grew up, I'd spend my twenties collecting beautiful heels and wearing them everywhere.

Then I actually became an adult.

Suddenly everyone was wearing sneakers.

Don't get me wrong I understand why. They're practical, comfortable, and perfect for busy days. But somewhere along the way, heels became something you save for weddings, fancy dinners, or special occasions. They stopped feeling like an everyday choice.

And honestly?

I kind of miss the idea of heels being ordinary.

There's something about putting on a pair of heels that completely changes how I feel. It's not about impressing anyone else. It's about the confidence they give me, the creativity they represent, and the reminder that fashion can simply be fun.

One promise I made to myself when I entered my twenties was that I would stop waiting for permission to enjoy the things I love.

If I want to wear platform boots, I'm going to wear platform boots.

If I want a six-inch stiletto because it makes me feel fabulous, I'm going to wear it.

If I fall in love with loud Y2K heels covered in bows, polka dots, rhinestones, or faux fur, I'm not going to convince myself they're "too much."

Maybe they are.

But maybe "too much" is exactly the amount of joy I want in my closet.

So I'm slowly building my dream heel collection—not because I have somewhere fancy to go, but because collecting beautiful things that make me happy is reason enough.

My Favorite Heel Styles Right Now 🤍

👢 Platform stiletto boots (my forever favorite)

🎀 Y2K statement heels with bows, bold colors, and playful details

❄️ Knee-high boots for winter

✨ Chunky platforms that somehow make every outfit more fun

💖 Anything that makes me stop scrolling and immediately think, "I need those."

Life is too short to save your favorite shoes for "someday."

Maybe the grocery store deserves a fabulous pair of heels too.

🎀 My Dream Heel Collection

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